Why I Became a Relationship Coach

I’m a relationship coach that specializes in Ethical or Consensual Non-Monogamy. I first found out about the term around 2014, when I found myself deeply in love with two men at the same time. As someone who had been raised in the Bible Belt, I felt like there must be something wrong with me. It …

Where Do Your Boundaries Lie?

I have had the immense pleasure of working with couples that are new-ish to polyamory. They usually come to me with communication issues, unrealistic expectations, and loads of hurt and disappointment. While this seems to be the first sentence that would be off-putting to a couple that would consider a different relationship style, the issue …

When Dreams Change

For the longest time I wanted to learn to sail. It was a dream of mine to live on a sailboat in the Caribbean. Being able to just sail where I wanted and live simply, obtaining supplies from different islands, lying on the deck under the Milky Way being rocked to peaceful slumber…now, that was …

But I’m the Only One

Polyamorous thought goes so far as to recognize that there is a tremendous amount of pressure, expectation, and resentment that comes from the idea that there is only one person in the entire world that is supposed to give and be everything to you.

Human Emotions are O.K.

Distress Intolerance Distress is emotional discomfort. Distress Intolerance is the term for a person’s inability to fully experience uncomfortable emotions. It makes a person desperate to escape or avoid these uncomfortable emotions such as sadness, anger or fear. Simply put, distress intolerance is when people believe that they cannot handle uncomfortable emotions and feel a strong …

Continual Transformation

Truth is, I was always growing. I grew up on this path, this journey of discovering myself and my purpose. I grew up listening to heart wrenching stories of people who’d lost everything, inspiring stories of how those same people created a beautiful new life, had their own spiritual journey and awakening transformation.  I learned, …

What is Love?

Baby, don't hurt me.     Ha! But really, let's take a look at love: what it is and how we experience it. The definition of love can be said to be a set of emotions and behaviors characterized by intimacy, passion, and commitment. It involves care, closeness, protectiveness, attraction, affection, and trust. In this definition, we see that Love …

Sex and Polyamory: A Quick Guide

Welcome, friends! I wanted to share with you some information real quick about sex and polyamory. You might be new to this site or new or exploring polyamory. You need to really know the importance of the subject I’m about to share with you: Sex is usually on the forefront of most minds of those …

Common Pitfalls of Polyamory

The most common issues I see when working with people exploring non-monogamy is how much of their historically monogamous relationship is based more on societal expectations rather than truth, vulnerability, and honesty. Expectations have mostly not been discussed and just assumed. Of course, most people go into monogamy with the expectation that the relationship fits …

Communication is Practice

TL; DR: Communication is one of the main tenets of Ethical Non Monogamy and Polyamory. Considering all the ways I and others fail at this so often. Open communication is a PRACTICE and none of us are perfect at it. Can we be more compassionate and less bitter? I have made some terrible mistakes in …